The Past Never Lasts: Changing the Past from the Future “The past never lasts”. Such was the slogan posted on a colleagues’ bulletin board, when I worked in a treatment center for traumatized adolescents. My colleague used it to remind her young clients that things...
Many people feel marred by guilt feelings that are preventing them from fully enjoying their lives. Sometimes, of course, guilt is a useful signal to ourselves that we have done something we can't really be proud of or have done something we shouldn't have. It allows...
The title of my blog post this week contains one of the essential insights of my work as a psychologist. Too many people spend their lives leaving places they have never actually arrived at. A person who had a traumatic childhood might say they would rather just...
Recently I came across an excellent video on some of the common misperceptions many people have about psychotherapy that might stop them from ever seeing a therapist. As the short video below from my colleagues at the The School of Life in London illustrates, these...
The line between telling the truth and telling a lie has always been the central theme of psychotherapy. The real self (an acceptance of one’s real feelings and motivations) and the reality principle (a sober assessment of the world as it really is) has always been...
No feeling is so painful as the pain of the human heart... One client of mine, when asked what it was like to feel shut out and rejected by her partner, used the word “soul-crunching” to describe her pain In fact heartache and heartbreak are often described by people...
We all have personalities, but what does it mean to have a personality “disorder”? What Do We Mean by Personality? A personality is a certain habitual way I deal with the world around me. When you think to yourself “boy, that person sure has a personality!”, what...
What happens in good therapy is hard to explain to someone who has not yet experienced it. Why is that? Because the person who enters the therapy room often isn't the person therapy will reveal her to be. Her very goals and definitions of who she is belongs to her...
Anger is an uncomfortable emotion for most people. We often wonder what to do with it when we feel it, or want desperately to get rid of it because we associate it with being out-of-control, find it to be destructive, or are afraid it. The Benefits of Anger: Anger...
One frequent problem people present with in therapy is: not knowing how to care for themselves emotionally. Many people make their lives all about caring for others, and not enough about caring for themselves. They might make statements such as: “My husband doesn’t...
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