by rulamo | Nov 29, 2020 | Couples Therapy, Relationships
Why Couples May Not Argue Enough… At first glance it might seem that one of the major reasons couples decide to pursue couples counseling is that they fight too much. Ironically, however, the fights couples engage in are often the result of a determination by...
by rulamo | Nov 29, 2020 | Couples Therapy, Emotion-Focused Therapy
What is it that makes some couples have more successful and rewarding relationships and others teeter on the brink of relationship disaster? The Secret of Successful Relationships: If you ask me, the secret to a successful relationship or marriage lies in the capacity...
by rulamo | Nov 27, 2020 | Couples Therapy
Even though it might seem that couples argue about a myriad of different issues, when we look a little deeper, we often find that most arguments have one thing in common: They are really about how we feel about each other, and more specifically, how loved or how...
by rulamo | Oct 24, 2020 | Couples Therapy
Believe it or not, I wrote my doctoral dissertation on flirting. I wanted to find out based on first hand accounts, what mindset you get into when you flirt. I wanted to live the experience vicariously through what other people told me about a time when they...
by rulamo | Oct 21, 2020 | Couples Therapy
Couples therapist John Gottman has identified 4 behaviors that are so destructive to relationships that they will almost certainly lead a married couple to divorce. Due to their ominous nature, he calls them the “4 horsemen of the apocalypse” and because of their...
by rulamo | Oct 21, 2020 | Couples Therapy
Romantic relationships tend to run a quite predictable course. Initially your partner can do nothing wrong. You are wearing rose-colored glasses. But over time, differences become annoyances and the novelty of your relationship wears off. Most couples hit an impasse...
