The concept of Borderline Personality Disorder is often understood as being synonymous with an impossible individual who acts out in the most ostentatious ways. The concept conjures up images of suicidal threats and acts, as well as intense anger and aggression....
It’s all supposed to be very rosy: Two people meet, fall in love, and live happily ever after. That’s what the fairy tale states... And yet underneath the hood of every romantic relationship, we find one thing that all relationships have in common: they are all a lot...
Why Couples May Not Argue Enough... At first glance it might seem that one of the major reasons couples decide to pursue couples counseling is that they fight too much. Ironically, however, the fights couples engage in are often the result of a determination by both...
Over the past 100 years, therapists have asked themselves the question: what really produces change in people? In this connection, the role "insight" plays in helping us resolve our issues has often been a point of contention... So does insight really cure? Insight in...
What is it that makes some couples have more successful and rewarding relationships and others teeter on the brink of relationship disaster? The Secret of Successful Relationships: If you ask me, the secret to a successful relationship or marriage lies in the capacity...
Even though it might seem that couples argue about a myriad of different issues, when we look a little deeper, we often find that most arguments have one thing in common: They are really about how we feel about each other, and more specifically, how loved or how...
Social Anxiety, like so many other “anxiety disorders”, is not really about anxiety. If we look a little deeper there is almost always something else at stake... Anxiety as Substitute Emotion Quite frequently, anxiety acts as a substitute emotion that takes the place...
One of single biggest issues that stops people from living the life they want is their inability to let go of negative memories from their past. Most often when people experience hurtful events in their life they tend to prefer to suppress their memories, or to simply...
Human beings are constantly faced with making the choice between two paths: One path that keeps them in the safe and comfortable straits of what they know, and another that entices with a different way of being, less restricted and more promising. Which way should I...
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The Past Never Lasts: Changing the Past from the Future “The past never lasts”. Such was the...
Many people feel marred by guilt feelings that are preventing them from fully enjoying their...
The title of my blog post this week contains one of the essential insights of my work as a...
Recently I came across an excellent video on some of the common misperceptions many people have...
The line between telling the truth and telling a lie has always been the central theme of...